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3 Keys to Live with no Regrets for today’s Resilient Woman
Are your kids are growing up too fast? Wish things had turned out differently? Looking for positive mindset hacks to Live with No regrets without bypassing the work? Here is your answer, Resilient woman!
TL;DR You, brilliant soul, are worthy of loving yourself free of regrets. – Heidi Esther
“Hey mom, I’ll be your Tik Tok manager. I can do that.” my son suggested in between shovels of dinner.
My heart soared. I envisioned him stopping by on weekends from college. Helping me navigate the new platform with ease. Each of us laughing and weaving our bond stronger.
In my heart, I knew he needed his time. I could feel a catch in my throat.
“How about we see how your first year goes, then maybe I can pay you next summer?” I asked and winked.
Later that night, I sat down and reflected. I knew exactly where that catch came from. Regret. Honestly, I live with almost no regrets, as crazy as that sounds. Not from Unemployment. Not from Divorce.
Regret pops in from time to time from the most unlikely place: When I was home with my kids.
Why? I wasn’t present; I was too busy trying to be perfect. I took all the pictures and was never in them. I don’t remember the smell of my babies or watching them in wonder and awe.
I went through this process to make peace with that me; that time. To reinforce my resilient woman.
3 keys To Live with no Regret?
1) Compassionate Copilot. First, send love, grace, and forgiveness to yourself. As if you were your best friend. What will the committee in your head get you? Just more headaches.
2) Lucky Penny. Sometimes we regret things that happened. Whether or not they were in our control, our job in life is to accept. Not accepting keeps our energy locked up and us not living our best lives. What was one lesson you learned and one thing you can be grateful for?
3) Try your best? Can you honestly say you tried your best with what you knew and who you were? If not, can you make a promise to yourself for next time? Realizing you tried your best reduces your shame and regret.
By engaging our compassion, gratitude, and making a promise to our future selves, we carve a heart-centered way to process, accept, and step forward as more resilient women. In the end, we lessen the shame and regret and tune into more present moment goodness and joy.
YES! The Joy that you deserve!
Your HUG
My dear, You are so Loved and Supported. You are here for a reason. You are made to be a unique, Brilliant Leader who lives in Joy.
It’s time to rewrite your story and Free your inner, Confident self.
In honor of all you are, I send you this Hug. Hug yourself or look at yourself in the mirror and say…
I am grateful for who I was and who I am.
Here’s another read about maintaining a Positive, Caring Mindset you might be interested in, resilient woman!
4 Steps on How to find a career when nothing interests you
Have these words ever graced your big, beautiful brain? God I don’t know what I want to do with my life? or So, how to find a career when nothing interests you? You, brave, generous soul, are in the right place to find an answer. Heidi Esther is a career coach for women and a certified emotional intelligence life coach with your next 4 moves.
A Story
I sat there, on the floor of Meijer grocery store. You know, that aisle that has all the fish tanks at the back?
My large, full shopping cart off to one side, a pink bundle of sleepy, slow-drinking baby in my lap. Next to me, my toddler shoveling handfuls of Cheerios into his mouth, staring at the fish. Cheerios spilling everywhere.
I closed my eyes and heard the ice cream dripping from the bottom of the shopping cart.
But I wasn’t sad or mad. This was my life! I prevented another complete meltdown. And that’s the exact moment when a familiar thought punched through my mile-long to-do and to-clean and to-care for lists…
Is this it?
I stared at the fish tanks. All those fish, swimming around and around the little castles and fake plants. I wondered if they ever had that question.
read more of this fishy story, beautiful!3 Unconventional Presents for Working Moms
Get ready for some affirmations and unconventional presents for working moms of any cloth. You’ll be surprised – they work for pretty much ANYONE. And you can’t buy them in a store…
A Story
As we went around the discussion circle, it became apparent. Being a working mom in the summer is its own dilemma. Each woman was asked to answer this question:
What would Success look like for you this summer?
“I love spending time with my kids, but…”
“How can I keep up the momentum and stay present for my kids?”
“I am not taking on any new clients.”
“…I know I’ll never get this time back.”
“Because I’m not the primary breadwinner…”
I could see the hope and despair in every woman’s eyes. The joy and exhaustion. The guilt and the longing.
In the midwest, summer can be glorious. And it can be full of competing priorities and values. Enough to flatten any strong hard working mom and send her pleading for Sleigh Bells and Stuffed Schedules.
My turn was coming up; my head was spinning. What to say?
My logical brain started: My kids are self-sufficient. Well, in most ways. But, to be honest, my son is leaving for college soon. (insert sadness) Homelife has been (insert: stressful.) And I’m still trying to figure out what a solid foundation for my business is. (insert worry)
Though the kids are picking their own blended schedules over the summer for the first time, I felt only one answer scream at me.
what are the gifts???!?Universal Love Note
In honor of Valentine’s day and every day, this Universal Love note came through me, for you!
Will you be my Valentine?
click to feel the love 😀Enjoying The Ride, even when you’re afraid
What does it take to keep Enjoying The Ride that is life, when things are uncertain. When things are scary? When things are out of your control?
oh man, what kinda ride did heidi esther go on? read on, brave soul!Are You the Hero, Damsel, or Evil Stepmother?
How are you, beautiful? My wish for you today is to welcome in the darkness with stillness and curiosity, while also holding space for hope and light. As my dear friend and astrologer says (I’m paraphrasing) “may you welcome in the yin and yang, the duality of life.” The duality of the knowledge in the dying and rebirth of the light within you. After all, it’s only after we let things go that we can let in the new. Speaking of letting go and letting in, I feel called to share a little story with you.
Are you the Hero, The Damsel, or The Evil Stepmother?
When my kids were little, I was a bit of an exhausted perfectionistic doormat-y mommy. Who tried to do it all. Who tried to create a life for my kids where they learned, thrived, and were properly bathed and socialized… I called my mom everyday, to learn things from how to mash potatoes and even plant something in the ground.
But, as if all that wasn’t enough…
Something always followed me around, from the time I was a teen through the next two decades of my life. A sinking pit in my stomach. Every time there was a movement, I would jump. Every time I got in the car and looked in my rearview mirror. Every time I was on the sidewalk and someone walked towards me, that sinking sensation in my stomach would happen, and I would move to the side and apologize for my double-wide (stroller.)
YEA, it’s like I was constantly waiting for the other shoe to drop. I was waiting to be “found out”. I was at-the-ready to apologize for whatever came up, whatever I did, just to make sure everyone had the best experience. It’s like I was constantly feeling that I was doing something wrong. In reality, I was overhelping and people pleasing to exhaustion.
But I thought, all this time: I am a Helper, after all! That’s my superpower. I’m the best Robin that Batman ever saw!
So, what was the problem?
When my life fell apart in all its kaleidoscope of colors, being the helper and the sidekick didn’t work. I had to work on myself and my mess.
And that’s when it happened.
I realized I was not meant to live my life as Robin.
HONEST EDIT > (I did try living my life as a damsel in distress and also as my own evil stepmother, those didn’t work either, fyi)
After a fractal journey of learning through pain points, ( < welcome to the hero’s fractal journey and my logo) I realized that…
To live authentically,
while having the most joy, and
no longer “waiting for the other shoe to drop”…
I had to let go of living in the shadow and embrace standing in my own Heroic light.
I had to embrace being someone who doesn’t get pits in their stomach. Who doesn’t apologize for taking up space.
So, I had to ask myself this question all the time. And now I’m asking it of you (in each little situation you get into…) Are You the Hero, the Damsel, or the Evil Stepmother?
AND, if you notice you’re NOT the hero, here’s your #JoyChallenge!
Hero Step >> Believe You are Equally Worthy
I had to believe that I am just as worthy as everyone else of living life as The Hero. Having this belief was the first step to claiming my Heroic Joy.
Now, I walk alongside women through the process of believing and owning their worth. Of feeling they are just as divine and as much as a gift to our world as Mother Theresa.
How do I do this? I hold space to reflect your unique brilliance. I walk you through Three Frameworks: Emotional Intelligence, Self-Leadership, and Co-active Coaching for fulfillment and balance. I provide the questions. Because I know, beautiful {{ subscriber.first_name }}, you have the answers inside.
So, are you ready to Embrace your Hero?
Here are two steps you can do any day, beautiful 💃 💃
- Share how you are Embracing your own Inner Hero in the My Joyfully Ever After Facebook group!
- Chat with me about your journey and see if support is what you need to unleash your inner Hero (FYI I have only 2 OPENINGS left in January)
💝 💝 💝 What a better present to give YOU and YOUR LIFE than one of empowered Joy, amIright? 💝 💝 💝
sending you love, light, and worthiness to light a thousand galaxies,
heidi esther
*What does this phrase mean, anyway? According to grammarist.com… The phrase wait for the other shoe to drop became popular at the turn of the twentieth century, and originated in New York tenements. Tenements were usually poorly constructed, crowded apartment buildings. A resident could certainly hear his upstairs neighbor dropping his shoes on the floor as he took them off at night–first one, then the other.
PS Let us know how you embrace the Hero! Pop over to my Joyfully Ever After Facebook Group!
PPS Are you ready to stop waiting to be the Hero of your life? Book a Joy Discovery chat here.
HONESTLY, it’s pretty much impossible to live a life that brings you Joy if you are always treating yourself not as equally brilliant as everyone else. So, if you want more joy, then give yourself permission to be the Hero of your day! And, if that’s too hard, try being the hero of your morning, first. Rooting for you 💕 💕
Never Grateful
Does the prospect of practicing gratitude annoy you? Gratitude used to bother the crap outta me, to be honest. A voice in my head was like “so what? it’s not like gratitude puts the food on the table, drives the kids around, or helps me deal with my ex.” Right?
ahhhhh, therein lies the secret sauce of gratitude.
ahhh! read on for the sauce!You are Worthy of Joy ( Joy Challenge inside)
Yea, yea. Everyone and their mother are out there saying You are Worthy of Joy. You “get it” that you are a special unicorn, somewhere in there. Sometimes out there. But, do you feel it?
BUT, How can you always tap into feeling great about yourself and why does it matter? Join me to feel into Worthiness, the first step of the Goldfish Self-Leadership System. A System to get your Cape 🦸♀️ – a proven framework to go from from not thinking a lot about yourself, to loving then believing in yourself and saving your joyful day, every day.
can you feel the love (tonight)? Let’s do it!You are a Rock Star. So, why don’t you feel it?
Read on for your rock star guide, beautiful!
I stared up at the stage, in awe, gratitude, and wonder. TV screens one hundred feet tall flanked the stage, creating live music videos of her performance, as she sang. She sang of jealousy. Of rage. Of abandonment. Of being an outsider. In between songs, she talked of motherhood and how people accuse her of having a secret penis.
At the end of two hours and over fifteen outfit changes, she sang while doing flips in a harness attached to a system that lifted her peter-pan style to the corners of a filled Major League baseball stadium. 🤯
P!nk.
During this performance, in over one hundred degree heat, I danced, massaged my sore legs, drank an inordinate amount of water, and basked in the glow of my wife, shining and radiant. However, If I’d gone to this experience just a few years ago, the key words would have been oppressive, loud, frustrated, painful, and tired.
But a lot has happened inside between then and now. Especially two key words. What are they? Well, answer coming…
So, we call famous people peculiar and eccentric. We think we’re sooooo different. But, maybe outside of the economics, we’re not. Maybe…
We are all weird and eccentric.
The difference? They have fully incorporated and radically accepted (<-THE ANSWER) their strange beautiful. Some people call it their shadow selves. No matter what it’s called, they bring these dark pieces of themselves into the light, for all to see. And we love them for it. Let me rephrase: our strange, sad, raging, queer, misunderstood, hidden peculiar parts feel not as alone. We feel more whole when we see the strangeness up there.
Seeing them gives us hope that we, too, aren’t broken. That we, too, have peculiar genius. That we, too, can love our whole selves into the light.
And the real magic?
These rock stars surround themselves with those who love and support their entire essence, too. They have turned their kryptonite into superpower. And have support doing it. Let me repeat that: The rock stars find people who don’t cut them down for being different. Who help lift them up because of it.
I stood there, closed my eyes, and soaked in the love. Over forty thousand humans, practicing radical love and acceptance and support of one another and the peculiar, eccentric rock star.
I felt kinship to everyone in the stadium, even the Rock Star. Not better, not worse, just awe and love. In my own way, I felt like my own kinda rock star.
And for you, dear beautiful, weird, in-progress, divine soul?
What about you? Do you wake up feeling like a rock star? If not, how are your dark pieces? Are you done with beating yourself up yet about what you need to improve or change? Are you ready to love yourself into the light, so you can enjoy your time on this spinning rock to the fullest? Are you ready to see what radical acceptance can do for you? Are you ready to clear away the busyness, turmoil, and pressures to make more room for Your Joyfully Ever After?
Seriously, what do you want your life to look like? To feel like? Do you have unconditional support + radical acceptance of all of you? Intuition? Resilience? Badass boundaries? Let’s chat to get clear on what Next-Level you looks like and what is really in your way.
Go here to book a 45 min Consult Call with me. Sending love and hugs to all the magnificent rock star brilliance that you are.
with love, light, and flippin’ joyfully ever afters,
Heidi Esther
PS P!nk vid 👇
