Welcome to SuperStep 4: Moving Forward. The Fourth of Five SuperSteps in the Everyday Superhero Method! (Here are the First SuperStep, the Second SuperStep, and the Third SuperStep)
Category: Doormat No More
Doormat no More is Heidi Esther’s second book. A relatable and true memoir about overcoming codependency and the freedom of creating healthy boundaries – even during divorce.
Country Club Series 2/2: Aunt Flo Strikes Back
Country Club Series 1/2: It’s the Most Aunt-Flo-der-ful, Country Club Series 2/2: Aunt Flo Strikes Back
After one beer and 14 hours of work
I’m sure it’s sweat. It’s after dark and still in the 90s.
I scan the landscape. For the darkest path. In case Aunt Flo decided not to leave. Bee-atch.
Okay, can’t walk-run to my car. My purse is in the office. Breathe. My next steps:
- Cross the Welcome station
- Walk ½ way up the Circle Drive
- Get past the Valet-guarded doors
- Dodge outcoming bathroom crowd
- Walk 20 feet into a No-Escaping-Notice office
I’m sure I’m fine.
is she fine? OMG, I can’t even watch. Why didn’t she double up, dear god, why???Elvis Series 2/3: The Fire Swamps
Elvis Series 1/3: 10 Things I hate about her dog , Elvis Series 2/3: The Fire Swamps, Elvis Series 3/3: The end of the Dog-inning
In My Bedroom
I paced in my bedroom. No other people were home. Just Elvis.
What should I do about him? What can I do? What am I going to do? It’s getting louder. I can’t handle it.
The pacing. The whining. The vomiting. The pooping outside his appointed area.
It’s been 5 days since his dog mom (my fiancee) – left. Elvis, her Italian Greyhound, is miserable. Therefore, I am miserable.
Yes, This could be the end for Heidi and elvis. but wait…God hides under the kitchen table for 35 years?
Hello,
this is God.
I’ll be handling all of your problems today.
Have a miraculous day.
Heidi Esther’s negative-ninny mind has got her cornered again. How is she supposed to live when she feels like – she’s – a mistake? She finds an answer under the kitchen table…
8 years ago in a treehouse
I blew my nose in the last kleenex. I sat in a dark corner of my bedroom, my arms hugging my knees. Across from me: a wall of windows. The day was bright. My view was shaded, showing a lush, leafy vista. I pulled my hoodie strings tighter around my head.
Why was Heidi so sad? It looks like such a nice day outside! Read on to find out…Engagement Series 2/3: The Return of the Ring
Engagement Series 1/3: How Can I Love You? Engagement Series 2/3: The Return of the Ring Engagement Series 3/3: Sponge Bathing, with love
If you like it, do you have to put a ring on it?
Me: I mean, yes. I’ll marry you. Someday. I love you. Truly, madly, deeply. You know.
Stacey (sheepishly): Yea, baby. I know.
Me: Can I see the ring?
will heidi put the ring on and (gasp!) become the ACCOMMODATING wife again? read on!Engagement Series 1/3: How can I love you?
Engagement Series 1/3: How Can I Love You? Engagement Series 2/3: The Return of the Ring Engagement Series 3/3: Sponge Bathing
Coffee with a caveat
Stacey walked down my narrow, dark, second-floor hallway. She has this rock-star swagger about her walk. When we walk, her Air Force service gives her the intuitive tools to lock-step together, which I find romantic. She held my morning coffee in her hand, which, of course, fully endeared her to me. Then, something unexpected happened.
She didn’t hand over the coffee and got down on one knee.
will heidi ever get her morning coffee? Read on!you can’t make me go back in there!
Divorced Scaredy Cat
I stood with sinking legs, at the threshold of my ex’s new house. Inside was silent and cave-dark against the light from the doorway. His large figure, daunting, challenging, between me and the sun.
I wanted a hoodie. I needed a bathroom. I desperately wanted to compliment him. My kids, 6 and 7, were still inside, looking for guidance. My tongue was stuck; lead feet ensued.
Geeeeeze, people, stop getting ahead of yourselves! This is not a story about violence. But when my ex gets angry, it’s like his eyes sink into his head and turn all black – like the black-oil people who get infected with the alien virus in X-Files. Get what I’m sayin?
Pre-divorce, my immediate response to his anger was either:
What do you do when you’re scared? read on and respond at the end!
