4 Steps on How to find a career when nothing interests you

Have these words ever graced your big, beautiful brain?  God I don’t know what I want to do with my life? or So, how to find a career when nothing interests you? You, brave, generous soul, are in the right place to find an answer. Heidi Esther is a career coach for women and a certified emotional intelligence life coach with your next 4 moves.

A Story

My large, full shopping cart off to one side, a pink bundle of sleepy, slow-drinking baby in my lap. Next to me, my toddler shoveling handfuls of Cheerios into his mouth, staring at the fish. Cheerios spilling everywhere.

I closed my eyes and heard the ice cream dripping from the bottom of the shopping cart. 

But I wasn’t sad or mad. This was my life!  I prevented another complete meltdown. And that’s the exact moment when a familiar thought punched through my mile-long to-do and to-clean and to-care for lists…

Is this it?

I stared at the fish tanks. All those fish, swimming around and around the little castles and fake plants. I wondered if they ever had that question.  

I had these moments. But I had responsibilities. I wanted to do good, do right, make everyone I loved happy. dutiful daughter, accommodating wife, doormatty momma, midnight volunteer. 

Then another question: God, I don’t know what I want to do with my life. Am I going to be a stay at home mom, or community fundraiser, who can barely scrape by, forever? Heat rose to my cheeks. Anger, or shame. No, both. 

I just wanted to be happy swimming in the fishbowls that life gave to me. I just wanted that little voice in my head to be quiet. 

That day, I shut the voice down. With no trick other than gratitude. Nothing like a little societally-encouraged practice to rationalize away my life. 

But that voice only got louder. 

My life descended into a decade of waking up to an unsafe marriage, toxic divorce, unemployment, anxiety, depression, mid-life awakening. I call it my decade in life’s fun house. 

In the heart of the pandemic shutdown, when everyone around me was miserable, I was unemployed and grieving a family loss, my wife and I were talking through a journal, I realized I WAS LIVING A LIFE OF Daily Joy. 

Me, the mommy doormat, the one with the questions. The one who wasn’t interested how to find a career because nothing else interested me. 

ME! I was able to find a way to live the best days of my life and take steps towards a career that interested me. 

I found a formula – Joyology – to activate my Authentic Leader – and create both a Joyful NOW and a Joyful FUTURE. 

My soul’s whine: “God, I don’t know what I want to do with my life.” was answered. 

4 Steps to find a career when nothing interests you (or you don’t know what you want to do with your life)

1. Reestablish your inner worthiness. By activating your inner worth, you activate your inner power and start realizing that You have the ability to change your direction. Here is a visualization, called Engage the Baby, that will help you do that.  
2. Remove your inner blocks. I call them Joy Blocks or Time Robbers. Think: Exhaustion, Overwhelm, Stress, Impostor Syndrome, Doing everything for everyone else but you. Take the Goldfish Authentic Leadership Quiz  and I will send you what is your number one Joy Block is and two moves to help you immediately.  
3. Listen with Curiosity to your Gut, your Head, and your Heart to take brave steps towards activities and pursuits that bring you joy, lightness, and energy. Bringing Joy in will help you maintain a true north towards your Peculiar Genius. Here’s a quick Listen of an interview about Curiosity. 
4. Integrate and celebrate your strengths and quirks. And Live your values. Your values, strengths, and quirks are your most steadfast companions. No matter what road or road block you encounter, you will never regret meeting it with living authentically. No more managing or fixing. You are perfectly perfect.  

Wishing you a curious, liberated, and empowered search towards a fruitful future. 

Your Hug

My dear, You are Brilliant. You are Loved. You are here for a reason.

Sometimes we were around others who couldn’t see or nurture it in us. And our stories become our own jailers. It’s time to rewrite your story and Love yourself free.

In honor of you being a perfectly perfect, as the human being you are, I send you this hug. A hug for busy, generous, hardworking You. Hug yourself or look at yourself in the mirror and say…

I am brave and curious.

For only when we follow and honor our inner knowing and weirdness can we light the way to full-out live our Brilliance.

Heidi Esther

#HerStory Prompt

Now, it’s your turn! Here’s your #HerStory journal prompt. Not only is it fun, it will help you improve your psychological flexibility, self-awareness, emotional intelligence, positive intelligence, resilience, mindfulness, and self-worth! Boom, baby!

Write for at least 3 minutes about…

…a job you didn’t like.

1. Set the scene. Who were you with? What were you doing? Set the scene from your 5 senses.
2. Describe the action. What was said or what happened?
3. Deliver the stakes. Why was this important? Why did you care?
4. Your action. What did you do? What was your body’s reaction? What was your mind saying? Describe any emotions and how they felt in your body (no need to name them if you don’t know)
5. Next Chapter. Take a break and do something physical. Maybe dance in celebration of writing a piece of your story! Now come back to it. What did you learn from it? How did you grow? Can you let any longstanding negative energy go? Can you forgive yourself?
6. Stuck? If you can’t let it go, please consider downloading the Freedom Shower – finding freedom from challenging emotions in 5 steps.

Who am I?

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