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Sometimes, I feel like butter scraped over too much bread.
When I pause and feel there’s not enough of me to go around, It’s time. Time to practice a care plan for self care deficit.
Does a self care plan sound like commitment or too much work? Then read this!
- FAST: Each item takes less than 5 minutes. And can be done waiting to pick up your kid, in the shower, drinking coffee.
- EASY: Give yourself permission to Practice your care plan. This gives you the flexibility to change it, try it, love it, or leave it.
- CHALLENGE: I challenge you to find one thing on the bottom handout that you can do to start practicing self care over the next four weeks.
Self Care and Self Love
Think self care is selfish? Then these tips will remind you that it isn’t. It’s necessary to not be running around on the brink of burnout all the time. They are designed to bring you a snippet of joy and peace to your heart – anytime.
BONUS! They are designed to help you remember who you are. And who is that? Who is someone who is just as worthy and beautiful as all those you help and care for.
You are worthy of Joy.
You are worthy of Peace.
I invite you to ask yourself this question after each tip: is this some thing I can easily incorporate into my overfilled day? If so, then I invite you to try it!
Are Self Care and Self Love made up?
I used to think self care and self love were bullshit. Made up by “some people” who weren’t logical in nature. Read: math and science brains. Note: I have an engineering degree.
I couldn’t have been more wrong. Self care and self love are the inner practice of what we first learn to do on the outside – for others. But a lot of us learned to receive and give love conditionally. For example…
“I’ll be happy when…”
“If you loved me, you’d…”
I learned to earn praise and recognition by cleaning the house, losing weight, and getting perfect grades. Note: I am a recovering perfectionist and people pleaser. By learning to give and receive love conditionally, we learn the same thing for ourselves.
With conditional love, we become our own worst enemy. And then believe self care and self love are bullshit.
Self Care vs Self Love
Next, you might ask yourself. What’s the difference between self care and self love anyway? Are they at odds? Can you have one without the other?
Can you have light without the sun? Nope.
Self Care is the fuel of Self Love. By practicing self care – however small – you are practicing self love. This is because of something so small we take for granted.
What is the thing you most need to invest in abundance to fall in love with someone?
Time.
You are worthy of your own time.
Giving yourself time to get to know, befriend, care for, play with, and find joy with yourself starts with self care and ends with becoming the love of your life. – Heidi Esther, Joyologist
The Truth: Self Care is Self Love
Truth: You’ll never feel self love if you are listening to your inner critic. If you listen to your critic, you will only be happy “when” you or others are and do what you expect them to. Read: You’ll only love yourself sometimes.
Spoiler alert: WE HUMANS are HORRIBLE predictors of the future.*
Is it time to eradicate the if and when and learn to accept our messy, broken, healing, weird brilliant selves right now. Because why?
You, my dear, are already perfect in your own way. Resilient in your own wholeness.
Just like a tree that might have been splintered in half still stands, blooms, seeds, and spreads her branches to the light, you are brilliantly beautiful and whole in your own way.
It’s time for you to see your light.
When we ignore out needs for others, we give permission for others to ignore themselves. When we learn to love ourselves unconditionally, we give permission for everyone else to do the same.
TL;DR You are worth your own time. Today, and every day.
7 joyfully quick Tips to Create a Care Plan for Self Care Deficit
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- 10 Things Humans Are Weirdly Bad at Predicting, Hamza Ali https://listverse.com/2025/05/06/10-things-humans-are-weirdly-bad-at-predicting/
Who am I?
Hello beautiful! Lovely to meet you!
I’m Heidi Esther, Joyologist and Certified Emotional Intelligence Life Coach and Consultant.
I help mission driven professionals increase bandwidth, decrease stress, and leverage their unique genius to create bigger impact in their lives.
Are you ready for more self care and self love, more joy, and less stress?
