Hey you! Woman who Takes Care of the World, Helper-Extraordinaire! First, and I want you to hear this CLEARLY!
You’re not doing anything wrong when guilt strikes. It just feels like it. Here are some facts…
You are Loved. Creative. Hella-Resilient. Whole. As a human being, not as a human doing. How do I know? Because that’s how I felt once I got rid of all the gunk hanging in my way of seeing myself clearly. And I witness women all the time, remembering this truth. Knowing this.
Here’s some guilt facts that will appease your left brain, about that pesky guilt…
So, you know what’s crazy about the kind of guilt that comes from wanting to make everyone happy and feeling that conflict, because you feel like doing something different?
Fact: in psychology, this feeling some people call it “mom-guilt” is actually not grounded in reality. It comes from your noggin.
Say whaaaaa?
Okay, so, say I robbed the chocolate bank, because I was desperate for 72% dark, and I couldn’t find it anywhere. When I got home and took a bite, it wouldn’t taste as smooth, bitter, and rich as normal. Why? Not because it wasn’t delish, but because it was laced with guilt. Moral Guilt. My internal standards of integrity would be going bonkers. Then, I’d likely bring the chocolate back, apologize, and serve my sentence in chocolate-making jail.
But the guilt that we experience IS NOT the same as Mom Guilt. It’s called Moral Guilt.
Mom-Guilt doesn’t have anyone to apologize to. Why? Because on the outside, we’re doing all the things and taking care of all the things. Doing 💯 x 10! On the outside, it looks like we love people and they love us. We haven’t done anything wrong in the eyes of anyone else.
Mom-Guilt comes from how we’re talking to ourselves about what’s going on.
PSST! Want something to do that reminds you of all the love you have to give? Hold your hands together. Why? One, it’s fun to see which fingers go first. Second, it will remind you that you, beautiful soul, are also your own best friend, and deserve love from yourself. Time to stop being your own mean girl.
